Posts tagged with "self-care"

February 08, 2019

10 Tips for Reconnecting with Your Partner

Don’t get too excited, this post is totally PG 😂

AHEM. You probably know Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. As a parent, it’s totally possible that February 14 means scribbling your kiddo’s name on the 30 cartoon cards you bought in a panic the night before. (It’s moments like these that make parenting lifesavers like Kids on 45th boxes so awesome! It takes just a few minutes out of your day to have all your kiddo’s clothes shopping over and done!). The best of us have considered getting a sitter. And for the rest of us, when it comes to our partners, well, every day is Valentine’s Day when they’re with us, right? 😜

Use Valentine’s Day to Reconnect

Actually, no, LOL. Sure it’s a bit of a Hallmark holiday, but the value in Valentine’s Day is it gets us at least thinking about doing something romantic and thoughtful for our significant others. Maybe flowers, chocolates, and a dinner-and-a-movie date are textbook, but it’s the thought behind the purchasing and planning that matter. ‘Cause while being together in the daily hustle and bustle of life and parenting is ultimately the best Valentine, it’s a little too easy to take that for granted, right? You need to stop and acknowledge it sometimes with a heart-shaped box of 55% dark!

Plus (warning: purely selfish sentiment ahead): when it comes to relationships and romance, you often get out what you put in… that said, who’s joining us in trying one of these basic, everyday ways to keep your romance alive this month?

10 Tips for Reconnecting with Your Partner

1. Speak their love language You’ve probably heard of the five love languages: acts of service, receiving gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, and quality time. It might be hard to speak to your partner’s love language on a daily basis, we know. But if there’s ever a time to put in the effort, it’s Valentine’s!

2. Take a peek in the mirror One of the great things about being in a relationship is being able to be totally comfortable around each other – enter hoodie and sweatpants – but it’s nice to put in a special effort to look good for each other too, right? Trust us, it gets noticed (even if s/he doesn’t say anything!).

3. Give in You don’t have to be a doormat, but if you’re being a doorstop more often than not, be an angel and just this once* buy/do/plan whatever it is your partner’s been wanting** that you’ve been opposing. Honestly it’s probably worth it for you, not only in the partner goodwill but also by relieving the stress that comes with all that roadblocking!

4. Sub in Is there something your partner dislikes doing that you could take over? Anything you can do to make daily life easier for your partner means less stress on them, and more good feels for the both of you, woot! Let him or her know that from now on, you’re doing their dirty work, and you’re doing it out of love.

5. Give them a break Work, school, parenting, life: whatever’s on your partner’s plate, it’s a lot. Every parent we know could use a break, even our neighbors who live directly across the street from their kids’ grandparents/no-cost babysitters. Send your partner off for some unexpected alone time or a nap just because – now that’s love 💕 Especially since you surely need it as much as s/he does… unselfish actions for the romantic win!

6. One word: massage No explanation necessary, right? 😉

7. Make eye contact When’s the last time you really looked at the love of your life? Put down your phone, and gaze at your guy or gal instead. Do this, regularly, and see if it doesn’t lead to sparks especially when paired with a heartfelt compliment!

8. Breathe, then speak Be proactive, not reactive by taking a breath and thinking about your response instead of snapping when your partner says something less than savory… not that your partner ever drives you nuts or anything! It might not seem like a big deal but every snappy comment chips away at your love a little, whereas you could build it up by responding more positively.

9. Plan a date Cliché but for good reason: spending time with your sweetie is essential, and Valentine’s Day is here to remind us of that. Get a sitter, make a reservation, and go out.

10. Snuggle Remember the pre-kid days when you could stay in bed forever just snuggling? Do that now.

Relationships definitely take work, but they’re so worth it! Any tips you can share on what you do to keep the connection strong with your sweetie?


*Oh you! would it really kill you to do it twice?

**within reason, haha

January 23, 2019

Fitting in Fitness

Hi there! It’s January, so you know we just had to come up with a fitness post. Though we think winter in general and not just the holidays are to blame for our current physique. Actually, we’re pretty much always trying/wishing to be fitter – anyone else still toting a few pounds of preggo weight? 🙋

Since our biggest challenge when it comes to working out is actually fitting it in, we thought we’d go there 😀 Truthfully we’re not totally sure about that – it’s quite possible if we had tons of free time we still wouldn’t do any lunges, hee hee. But since there’s no chance of that happening – we are 100% certain that all moms need more hours in their day – we’re gonna focus this post on what we’re trying to fit a little fitness into our lives.

Plan for It

People who are in far better shape than us say planning your workouts is key. Block off time in your day for some fitness and it’s far more likely to actually get done, right? We’re training ourselves to take a quick peek at the day or week and see when we could realistically sneak off to the gym, or work in a walk, or take a class. The most common times the moms we know have to exercise tend to be:

  • During naptime: This is a great time to do a workout DVD or follow a routine on a fitness app.
  • On a lunch break: Sneak out for a speed walk on your lunch hour.
  • Early mornings: If you’re a morning person, working out before anyone else in your house is awake is a good option.
  • With your kiddos: Snuggle your kiddo into the stroller and head out for a walk.
  • During screen time: Let your kiddo watch a show while you work out.
  • Late night: Still have energy after putting the kids to bed? Commit to using the time to getting your work out on!

Surprisingly, so far we have found a couple of hours a week to exercise by reorganizing our days a bit (honestly, mostly by getting up a little earlier here and there, and cutting out a bit of mindless screen scrolling). But if you’re not seeing even a couple of times a week here and there where you might get in a full workout, you’re definitely not alone! Read on…

Get Creative

As busy as all moms are, it’s pretty much essential that we actually create opportunities for exercise in our daily lives. By that we mean turning everyday events into chances to bust a move. We’re talking about (admittedly kinda dorky) things like parking in the far lot and hiking it into the store, hauling all the groceries in by yourself, the throwing down a few pushups on the playground, and doing jumping jacks in front of the TV. There are a bunch of apps that offer super-short workouts designed to do in your living room, and some are potentially possible even for mamas at home with tiny humans!

Dress for Sweat-cess

We’re moms, so casual is our MO. That said, we’re not about to break a sweat in skinny jeans (oh no). And there have definitely been times we’ve skipped on a quick walk because we’re really hoping to keep our shoes in pristine condition, are you with us? So clothes are key. Luckily this is a relatively easy fix. It just requires keeping comfy shoes and stretchy pants on the ready so we can take advantage of any random opportunities to work out. So if you don’t want to wear your workout gear around town, it’s not an impossible ask to stash a pair of sneakers and leggings in your car or gigantic mom tote, right?

Push Your Partner

Don’t go it alone! Gently nudging your partner or a friend to exercise more is surely going to motivate you to make some moments to move, right? Whether you work out together or just compare your steps at the end of the day, having someone along for the jog is going to be of benefit to everyone involved. Plus, any opportunity for matching wrist and headbands should not be ignored, you know? 😂

Know an easy way to find some time to exercise? Order a box from Kids on 45th, and cross “Shop for the kids” off your To Do list!